In his book De tanto amarte, me olvidé de mí ("Loving You So Much, I Forgot About Myself"), clinical psychologist Walter Riso
Self-Love First: A central pillar of the book is the mantra: "I need to love myself to love you". Self-esteem based on respect and acceptance is the only way to avoid the "self-sacrifice scheme" that many mistake for love. In his book De tanto amarte, me olvidé
The book is based on Riso's extensive research and clinical experience, which suggests that people who excessively prioritize their partner's needs often do so due to underlying psychological dynamics, such as: We are taught that true love expects nothing
Riso observes that society often romanticizes the idea of "total surrender" in a relationship. We are taught that true love expects nothing in return, which leads many to settle for unbalanced dynamics where they give constantly and receive very little. This lack of reciprocity is not normal; it is a symptom of emotional dependency According to Riso, this "metamorphosis" occurs when you: Prioritize their needs to the point of forgetting your own vocation or hobbies. Tolerate the intolerable just to avoid conflict or loneliness. when every fiber of your being wants to say "no". Reclaiming Your Individual Self when every fiber of your being wants to say "no"